This Bachelor Star Just Called Out Childbirth Horror Story Sharers, And Were Cheering

This Bachelor Star Just Called Out Childbirth Horror Story Sharers, And Were Cheering Friendly reminder that its bedrngnis okay to tell a pregnant woman about your birth trauma/horror story unless she asks, Bekah Martinez, a recent Bachelor star on Aries season, tweeted. She makes an interesting point and many otherbei pregnant women on Twitter concur.In September, Martinez, 23, and boyfriend Grayston Leonard announced that theyre expecting a baby, according to People.Martinez is expecting her baby this month, calling her pregnancy legitimately a dream come true and explaining that motherhood is the one thing that shes known with certainty for so long, according to PureWow. She added, Ive gone back and forth on the idea of marriage and relationships, but Ive always felt sure that I want to be a mom.Shes been honest throughout her journey to motherhood. In an Instagram story post on Tuesday, January 2, she shared a selfie with teary eyes, blaming pregnancy hormones, according toUs We ekly. The image welches captioned Lil Rudolph over here. Ive officially fallen victim to the pregnancy hormones. Having a hard time dealing with the anxiety of leaving my parents home and going back to LA (even though its only been a week). I just want to be near my mom and dad and family and familiar childhood places.But while Martinez has been open about her personal experience, shes not asking for all the pregnancy horror stories some women have shared with her. Stories of trauma can be anxiety-inducing for pregnant women, and added stress, of course, isnt healthy.Other moms are chiming in to support the mom-to-be.Why do people do that? Especially to first time moms All you need to know is that youve got this. Final stretch, wrote JulesFromMA.I have 5 children. I was a labor and delivery nurse for 12-13 years. Every pregnancy, every labor, every delivery, every child is different and wonderful. I abhor hearing women telling a first-time pregnant mama how its going to be. Your bod y. Your baby. Your experience, chimed in jenrninohio.And some shared happy, easy birth stories to quell her fears.A very nice birth story for you when I was born, my mom was in labor for like an hour and only had to push for like five minutes. Also, I came exactly on my due date. And she didnt need any stitches. Not to brag or anything, but hopefully your baby is just like me, wrote magically_madie.Martinez isnt alone in not wanting to hear others unsolicited horror stories.The fear of childbirth plagues as many as one in 10 women its a fear thats known as Tocophobia. For some women, the phobia surrounding childbirth is so great that they request a Caesarian or, in severe cases, ask for a termination because their fear of pregnancy and birth are too difficult to contemplate.The added stress of fearing birth could manifest physically, and actually have harmful effects, as well. For one, some studies suggest that high levels of stress in pregnancy can lead to problems during childhoo d, such as stalled brain development, a slower immune system or trouble paying attention. Stress can also increase the chances of having a premature baby (born before 37 weeks of pregnancy) or a low-birthweight baby (weighing less than 5 and a half pounds). For mothers, stress can lead to a more troubling birth, which, in turn, can lead to postpartum depression.For Martinez sake and for the sake of pregnant women everywhere lets spread more optimism.--AnnaMarie Houlis is a feminist, a freelance journalist and an adventure aficionado with an affinity for impulsive solo travel. She spends her days writing about womens empowerment from around the world. You can follow her work on her blog, HerReport.org, and follow her journeys on Instagram her_report,Twitterherreportand Facebook.